I'm in love with a man that I have known for two years. He is crazy, quick-tempered, controlling, possessive... and sweet, compassionate, understanding, smart, loyal, trustworthy, honest, caring, loving, and madly in love with me. As I am also madly in love with him. We make the perfect couple. I too am crazy, quick-tempered, controlling and possessive. Neither of us have showed the negative aspects of our emotions around each other too much in the last two years. We have had disagreements in the past two years of course but we have yet to have an actual argument or 'fight'. It's like our minds sometimes work as one. Almost on a daily basis, I can reach for my phone seconds before it rings.. and it's him. We both love each other and have no desires for anyone else.
On the first day I met my boyfriend, I knew he was different. Everyone sees it. Everyone is pulled to him because of his easy going nature and he intrigues everyone he comes into contact with. He is also incrediably handsome and has this really easy sexiness about him. He doesn't have to try too hard, it just flows naturally. We are very much in love and have been talking about getting married.
I have two kids from a previous marriage and he has two children (one he has full custody of). I am very afraid of blending our familes. Terrified actually. I know it would be hard, stressful, complicated, crazy... all of those things. Would it ruin our relationship? Am I willing to let go of the reins and let my new 'husband' take control of 'our' home and kids? He is that kind of guy. The head-of-the-household, what-dad-says-goes kinda guy (which to be perfectly honest I have always wanted). He is old fashioned in a lot of his ways. Is it worth the risk? Is there anything really wrong with staying unmarried, living our lives out separately for years to come, and just stay committed to each other? What about married but living separately? I would love some feedback on this subject! Any advice from people who have gone through a marriage where families had to be blended together would be grealy appreciated!
Should I stay or should I go? (or WE should I say...)
